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Where Do We Draw The Line With International Etiquette?
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I communicate with business people on a daily basis from Europe, Canada, Australia, China, Vietnam, Taiwan, Isreal, India, South Africa, and occasionally..The Middle East.
Concerning the Asian and Middle Eastern countries, there are a multitude of offensive tones, salutations, apologies (or lack there of), etc. that seem to really upset them.
These are a combination of simple and complex things. For example:
Simple: If you accidentally address someone from Vietnam or Korea by their first name BEFORE they address you as such, many will take great offense and consider it "dishonorable". The same goes for apologies; if your apology is too long, it is a sign of weakness, too short and again...disrespectful.
Complex: Sarcasm, humor, and idioms. If you are the least bit sarcastic or use an idiom they don't understand, here comes the offesnsive comments about being yet another "rude American".
So, the root of my question is WHY are Americans expected to jump through hoops, tolerate delays, and memorize countless customs and salutations in order to avoid offending foreign business people, when it seems the only thing they are willing to do is learn how to speak and/or type simple English?
Shouldn't other cultures be expected to understand American/English practices as well (i.e. Americans frequently address each other by first name after the first meeting without expecting to be called "Mr.", "Mrs./Ms.", "Sir", etc. ) ?
On several occasions, I've had to draft "culturally correct" emails just to ensure a simple response without dishonoring the other individual by calling them by their first name or insisting on expedient delivery of paid goods, etc.
It's tempting to say, "Well, we English speaking people need to give them a break since they don't understand all the idiosyncrasies of our language/culture", but why can't the same hold true vice versa?
Why is it like this and what can be done?
***Please Note: This question does not apply to EVERY foreign associate in which I communicate. About Half seem to get it and speak to me as I speak to them. So, this is not a "racial/cultural profiling", rather, a very common situation which needs to be addressed. I frequently receive emails from other experts and forum members telling me I may have offended "so-and-so because in THEIR country, nobody talks like that"...and so on. Granted, sometimes my statements are inflammatory, but where I come from, I can say what I want. Shouldn't other cultures who wish to interact with Americans and other English speaking countries take the initiative to understand our stance on freedom of speech and expression? ***